Why I become a sleep consultant?

In 2018, my first baby was born. As a novice mother, I have also kept reading various parenting books, and I have also seen and solved all kinds of difficulties encountered on the way to parenting, and completed the monster-fighting and upgrading step by step. And as a registered preschool teacher in Canada, I am confident that I must be the most professional mother on the road of raising babies!

But... When it comes to the baby sleeping, I am really almost collapsed and helpless: during the day, my daughter is sleeping steadily on my arm, but she just put down the bed and wakes up in seconds; It took me half an hour to fall asleep, and I felt that she had fallen asleep. As soon as I moved my hand away, she burst into tears; occasionally the situation was good, and I slept for 20 minutes after taking a nap. I turned on the sleep mode again, and took another half an hour of filming, and the baby fell asleep for another 20 minutes while struggling. Back and forth, not only did the baby not sleep for a long time, but he also couldn't do anything, so he could only sit quietly on the ground and wait for...to sleep. What was even worse was bending over to take a picture of myself, and I took pictures of myself with a herniated disc in the waist. In the end I compromised and chose to sleep with milk. Other people's children are "eat-play-sleep", my daughter is "eat-sleep-play". The price of sleeping with a baby is to lie down with her, so I often miss the time to eat, hungry, and several times the baby who has worked so hard to sleep is woken up by my stomach, who can understand the feeling of wanting to cry without tears? Woolen cloth? As for the daytime naps at that time, I feel apprehensive when I think about them. I always hope that the children will grow up quickly and sleep less. I finally stayed up until night, I hope she can sleep through the night, and I can also rest. But frequent night waking up made me physically and mentally exhausted, because I put the baby to sleep again and again, but I suffered from insomnia. By the time I fell asleep again, she had started another round of night wakings. Day after day, my emotions were difficult to control, and my quarrels with my teammates were increasing. Who would have thought that my child's sleep would seriously affect the harmony of my family.

In the end, the arrival of my grandma liberated my body and mind... So in the end, I still didn't understand how the baby could sleep well. I thought I had met a "sleeping baby", and I was still blaming myself for being unlucky. Looking at the "baby angels" in other people's homes, I can only envy them.

Until the second baby is born in 2020, the sleep quality of the eldest is still a problem for me. Because grandma has returned to China, and she has become her own mother to sleep with her again. Even though my baby is two years old, I am very content with waking up at night once. In order to avoid repeating the same mistakes, I searched all kinds of sleep books after my second baby was born, and planned to train my baby to fall asleep independently, and every time I put him to sleep, I tried to reduce the comfort level as much as possible. But when theory and practice are combined, the problem arises again: the bigger the baby, the harder it is to take pictures. After entering the age of 2 months, there is still no long sleep during the day, and he will wake up within half an hour. Falling asleep at night is even more difficult. I have to go back and forth into the bedroom to comfort her. Two hours later, the baby still hasn't slept well. Occasionally, the baby slept with the baby and finally slept obediently for 2 hours. But I was really scared into a cold sweat. This... isn't it to imitate my sister? Absolutely not! Finally, under the push of big data, I discovered the profession of "sleep consultant". Although I took some detours and changed several consultants in the process of implementing sleep training, none of them satisfied me. Because the baby can indeed fall asleep, but because the sleep training method is too "cruel", the baby cries so much that every time I carry Er Bao into the room, he starts to cry loudly, because he I also know that the nightmare has begun. So I stopped sleep training again in desperation. Until I met Wendy, a professional infant sleep consultant who graduated from FSI in the United States. Although she was far away in the United States, after in-depth communication, she helped me formulate a new sleep training plan. Just when I secretly decided to fight a protracted war, a miracle happened on the first day of sleep training. In the first nap in the morning, I put my son down on the bed according to the time given by Wendy. He blinked, didn’t cry, and fell asleep in less than 10 minutes. I couldn’t believe it, my happiness came like this up! A perfect start gave me enough confidence! Although it was accompanied by occasional crying in the follow-up sleep training, overall, as a mother, I can still accept it. In the end, Erbao only took 14 days to stabilize the ability to fall asleep independently, and realized that he can fall asleep happily during the three naps during the day, and can catch up on his own, and sleep for a long time during the nap during the day! I was also able to spend more time with Dabao, and I no longer had to sit by his bed and wait for his sleep.

When the baby learns to sleep independently, I found that "sleep regression", "teething" and "brain leap" are no longer difficult problems, and the baby can solve them by himself!

Today, my thirds baby is in my stomach. Someone asked me who gave me the courage to have a third child, of course it was sleep training! The baby can sleep by itself, what else is difficult?

My baby's problem was solved, which also gave me the idea of being a sleep consultant. At first, I wanted to help more mothers like me who didn't sleep well, but after studying and practicing a complete set of sleep training courses Finally, I found that it was the babies who needed help more. Because many of them are like my daughter, I have labeled them as "sleeping scum". As everyone knows, it is just that the adults fail to fully understand the baby's sleep needs, which leads to the baby not only lacking sleep, but also being misunderstood innocently. In fact, every baby can be an angel!